I am a yoga teacher and I also deliver training and personal development programmes based on coaching techniques using strengths based methodologies and positive psychology. I’ve recently been delivering some training on confidence and empowerment and during one session we had a discussion on remembering to be grateful for the things we have, rather than focusing on the negatives. During the discussion, I realised this is something I’ve been forgetting to do recently myself!
The women I’ve been working with, all have busy working lives as well as children and all were talking about how hard it is for them to balance everything. They’re putting themselves under a lot of pressure to perform well to deliver at work and then they go home and feel guilty if they don’t spend every spare second with their children. None of them felt that they were giving enough time to themselves or, if they did, that came with a side order of guilt!
This got me thinking about how lucky I am to be able to have time to things I want to do for myself and how much that will change if a baby does come along. So although, I am ready and prepared for that when it happens, what I should be doing is enjoying the time I have and taking care of myself.
So I decided to make time everyday to recognise the things that I am grateful for and stop focusing on something that I don’t have. I set myself a target to write down 2 things every day that I am thankful for.
That was 2 weeks ago and each night I have taken 5 minutes to reflect on what I’m grateful for that day – sometimes it’s a small thing, like having an umbrella on a rainy day, other times it’s something bigger (I found out last week that a friend and colleague needs surgery on his brain and found myself feeling very thankful to have good health). But taking that small amount of time each night has helped me to remember what I have and stop focusing on what I don’t have.
It has also helped that our next door neighbour’s baby must be teething and keeps crying through the night – It wakes me up just briefly and there’s a nice moment when I realise that I can just go back to sleep whilst they have to get up and take care of it. Definitely moments to treasure before it’s our turn!!